Some people look at it as dog behavior that drives them crazy. Some people look at it like the dog needs some training. Some people look at it like why can’t I just have a good dog that can go everywhere with me instead of this dog that I have to watch out for bad behavior all the time?
Dog Training with Maui Aloha | Healing
I call it time to start understanding how to heal your feelings and your needs by learning a better way to communicate. Dogs are the very best place to start that kind of healing. They really don’t judge, they don’t really expect, they just are there to live with you, in the moment, whatever you are going through.
And sometimes what you are going through is the fact that you aren’t communicating with yourself, and therefore you aren’t communicating with anyone else really including your dog, and it makes you irritated. It makes you feel on edge. It makes you have anxiety. Sometimes even what might be a full on anxiety attack takes over in what should have been a real simple thing to get through. Something you actually do every day, but still every single day you get this feeling.
Anxiety or Stress Imagine What It Must Be Like to Be a Dog Who Can’t Explain It
If you know what I’m describing then imagine those same feelings and reactions to those feelings in your dog.
And now do you see why this thing that could be called fear aggression or separation anxiety or unexplained outbursts is really about not knowing how to communicate? It is about not knowing how to fulfill needs due to assumptions.
Is it bad dog behavior or is it learning how to communicate and understand? Is it the dog just needs some training or is it that we need someone to hear us too, and when we are listened to the joyfear life turns to the joyful life.
The dog who is living the joyfear life can also quickly learn to live the joyful life.
If you have questions or want help with your dog I am here.
Jt Clough lives in Maui, Hawaii and practices health, happiness, natural remedies and training for dogs and their people. Her uncanny way of communication with both dogs and people is healing and her training is effective physically and emotionally. Her work at ReVIBE | Dogs + Joy + Vibrance is for people looking to live healthier and happier lives through their dogs and her passion for it has helped so many to find and do that thing they’ve been talking about or wishing to happen for so long. She is a dog whisperer for our best friends and studies natural dog remedies, nutrition and communication. Her latest publications are Pumpkin Dog Food + Treats Recipes and 5K Training Guide | Running with Dogs.
Marla
September 3, 2012 at 1:04 pm (12 years ago)Jt, I love your point about how frustrations arise out of not communicating well. I can especially see how this can play out in the human-dog relationship – just like babies, they’re responding to what they feel and sense. 🙂 Keep up the fantastic work, I love what you’re doing!
gina
September 3, 2012 at 2:13 pm (12 years ago)Love this Jt! Sometimes we all just need a little help in the understanding/communication department…and that will only help our amazing furry friends :).
Lena Castles
September 7, 2012 at 12:27 pm (12 years ago)Do you have any door hanger brochures? I want to stick one on my neighbors door! They need help with their dog that barks at the sky, sometimes at 5am 🙁
Will share your post as I’m sure many people and their pets could benefit 🙂
Molly Jacobson
September 21, 2012 at 7:57 am (12 years ago)Oh, JT, I love it. I often realize that I am not really listening to my dogs — usually right after they’ve “behaved badly.” When I tune in, I am astounded by what I seem to be picking up — and how helpful it is to whatever situation is at hand. My husband even gets down on the floor and looks at the world “from their perspective.” It’s helpful. It just takes time. 😉
Tania
September 26, 2012 at 1:10 pm (12 years ago)Lovely picture and great post. I had a beautiful black GSD with bad nerves. My ex hubby and I quickly learned it was about understanding what he may be feeling in certain situations and that there were certain things that we could not “train out of him”. It was part of his personality and it was our responsibility as his family to not expect him to behave like say a friendly relaxed Lab.
My mother is very good with animals but I recently noticed her impatiently yelling at one of our dogs when she barked at night. I told her that moi moi doesn’t really want to handle the situation, by barking she is letting us know there is a stranger, a noise or something else amiss (from her doggie persective). I said try telling her thank you, good dog in a calm voice and it worked like a charm. Moi moi relaxed…whew ok,my job is done.